I'm curious - do you have a very active social life? Would you say you had many close friends? I'm struggling letting go of a few toxic friendships right now, I guess because I feel that without them I'll be lonely. I'm honestly getting to the point though that I'd rather be lonely that have to deal with so much frustration and anxiety!
My social life is not very active and I don’t have many close friends (around me).
I really secluded myself when I started recovery, because the outside world was too much. To the point where I wouldn’t even respond to texts or answer the calls from my best friend in Syndey, sadly she didn’t understand that I wasn’t ignoring her, I was struggling - she left.
Eventually I eased back into partying, but realized I didn’t enjoy it as much, drinking had changed and I just viewed it all differently. It was a waste of time to me. I liked being at home with my routine.
Leaving high school I didn’t have a group of friends either, towards the end I wasn’t very close with my grade, I preferred my time alone in the library because I didn’t feel anxious there and it was quiet. It’s okay to be the kid in the library, fuck the assholes who think they’re cool to tease people for where they choose to hang out. You’re looking after yourself, not them.
Right now, Kubby is the person who I do things with. I have girlfriends and guy friends that I text, but do not live near me so we don’t get the chance to socialize, we just text and chat at times. Which is nice, but I do miss having just a few close friends who come over & adventure with.
Brie is my bb but she works a lot and it’s hard, but we don’t lose each other so that’s what matters.
Tonight I’m going to a party and it should be great because I’m actually excited to socialize (never thought I would say that)!
My advise - end as many toxic relationships as you need to. People come and go and you don’t deserve to be destroyed by someone lingering. Be strong, be proud and be assertive. You are allowed to make decisions for your own health and happiness.
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do you suffer from anxiety? How do you cope?
Yes I have been diagnosed with anxiety.
Realistically I should be on anti anxiety medication but after the amount of drugs I was on and my horrible reactions to them - I am kinda flat out “no” to any more antipsychotics.
I cope by living gently, having people I feel comfortable/safe with, being honest about my moods/emotions, being able to identify triggers and deal with them.
Some days I don’t cope though, I cry often and that’s okay. Anxiety isn’t easy and no one is a super hero, we’ve just gotta find ways to keep going.
Sooo happy to hear about carrot seed oil! I'm a VERY fair red head and if any part if my skin is exposed for more than 10 minutes I burn hard so I had no choice but to use sunscreen in certain places (it's hard to cover your feet at the beach, for example) or so I thought until now!!
I’m so pleased you’ve found a natural alternative! Woo :)
"We carry about us the burden of what thousands of people have said and the memories of all our misfortunes. To abandon all that is to be alone, and the mind that is alone is not only innocent but young — not in time or age, but young, innocent, alive at whatever age — and only such a mind can see that which is truth and that which is not measurable by words."
when fire shaving, does it grow back darker and is it stubbly? would you recommend it over shaving/waxing?
My arm hair has never grown back darker or stubbly. I burnt about 4 days ago and right now my arm hair is soft to touch (growing slowly)
I would definitely recommend burning your arm hair instead of shaving or waxing. It’s also so much cheaper, quicker and is also less annoying than shaving! Shaving my arms only happened once - felt so weird and I didn’t like it haha